Comments on: Losing a Baby http://www.howhappyis.com/2009/12/losing-a-baby/ Fri, 28 May 2010 09:50:11 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 By: Shantell http://www.howhappyis.com/2009/12/losing-a-baby/comment-page-1/#comment-10 Shantell Wed, 16 Dec 2009 06:20:53 +0000 http://www.howhappyis.com/?p=839#comment-10 HI, I just wanted to say how sorry I am for your precious loss. Every time I hear the story of another lost angel, it just breaks my heart :-( We, too lost a baby, but to placental abruption and uterine rupture. We lost her at 39 weeks. I am 24 weeks pregnant now (3 years later) and very nervous, but know it is in God's hand. HI, I just wanted to say how sorry I am for your precious loss. Every time I hear the story of another lost angel, it just breaks my heart :-( We, too lost a baby, but to placental abruption and uterine rupture. We lost her at 39 weeks. I am 24 weeks pregnant now (3 years later) and very nervous, but know it is in God’s hand.

]]> By: Manda http://www.howhappyis.com/2009/12/losing-a-baby/comment-page-1/#comment-9 Manda Tue, 15 Dec 2009 18:05:25 +0000 http://www.howhappyis.com/?p=839#comment-9 Thank you for sharing. While I had an earlier loss, many of the emotions and experiences you described apply to me. I was devasted, ashamed, I felt guilty, responsible, but I also left with an absolute certainity that I had what it took to be a good mother. I knew I loved my child and I would love all the other children I would be blessed with. The grief of losing my first baby, showed me that I could love a child deeply enough. I wasn't nearly as shallow or self-centered as I had been afraid I was While, I went through my 2nd pregnancy with my breath held, fingers crossed, and a constant prayer in my heart "Please don't let me lose this baby", the moment my son let out his first scream my husband and I were happier then I could ever have imagined. Pregnancy loss is tragic,and I wish that as a society we could talk more honestly about it. I think because it is uniquely experienced by women-we don't share our stories. But, I know from my husband that the father's feel the loss as well. It would be healing to share our experiences more openly. And, maybe it would help prepare other mother's for the possibility. I know that part of my shock was the loss of my innocence. It had never occurred to me that I could loss a baby. I was the first woman in my family (5 aunts, 2 sisters) to have a miscarriage. Thank you for sharing. While I had an earlier loss, many of the emotions and experiences you described apply to me.

I was devasted, ashamed, I felt guilty, responsible, but I also left with an absolute certainity that I had what it took to be a good mother. I knew I loved my child and I would love all the other children I would be blessed with. The grief of losing my first baby, showed me that I could love a child deeply enough. I wasn’t nearly as shallow or self-centered as I had been afraid I was

While, I went through my 2nd pregnancy with my breath held, fingers crossed, and a constant prayer in my heart “Please don’t let me lose this baby”, the moment my son let out his first scream my husband and I were happier then I could ever have imagined.

Pregnancy loss is tragic,and I wish that as a society we could talk more honestly about it. I think because it is uniquely experienced by women-we don’t share our stories. But, I know from my husband that the father’s feel the loss as well. It would be healing to share our experiences more openly. And, maybe it would help prepare other mother’s for the possibility.

I know that part of my shock was the loss of my innocence. It had never occurred to me that I could loss a baby. I was the first woman in my family (5 aunts, 2 sisters) to have a miscarriage.

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